Really, what’s wrong with being promiscuous? I mean, the worst that could happen is that the female can get pregnant and not know who the baby’s daddy is; or we could just end up becoming infected with syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV or other life threatening STD’s. Certainly, the PROs of being promiscuous definitely outweigh the CONs, don’t they? Okay … now it’s time for me to stop being sarcastic.
Lately, I’ve been speaking to some females around my age (I will refer to them as acquaintances, rather than friends) and I was quite alarmed at some of our conversations. Here is one, for instance:
Girl: Remember the cute guy that I told you that I had a crush on last week?
Me: Yeah, what about him?
Girl: Well, he’s my boyfriend now.
Me: Okay, cool. Nice catch lol. (and random conversation continues)
One week later ….
Girl: I’m depressed. I want to break up with my boyfriend.
Me: Already? Why? What happened?
Girl: Well, I never really liked him, I just had a crush on him and I f*cked him, but he’s no good in bed, so now I have no use for him. Plus, he is annoying.
At this point I am shocked and speechless. Thankfully my cell phone rings, so that I don’t have to continue this conversation.
Apart from this conversation, many females have hinted that they would sleep with guys soon after they started speaking to them. My question is, do all females do that? Was I so caught up in my own little world that I never realized that we (females) are just as promiscuous as the males?
Maybe I am old fashioned, but I believe that before I end up in bed with a guy, I must first get to know him, spend time with him, develop feelings for him and TRUST HIM (and this process does not take only two weeks). Since when are we jumping headfirst into something as serious and delicate as sexual intercourse, within a matter of days of meeting the guy? What happens when we find out that the guy was only using us, that he has some disease, or a bad reputation, or is married with kids? If we continue this cycle of meeting a guy, sleeping with him, breaking up, moving on to the next guy, sleeping with him, breaking up, etc., where the hell are we going to end up?
I found out from my friend Al that when it comes to HIV, the Caribbean is the second most infected region in the world, with Sub-Saharan Africa being the first. Imagine that we are more infected than all those other LARGER regions.
At the end of 2007, an estimated 230,000 people were living with HIV and AIDS in the Caribbean. Some 20,000 people were newly infected during 2007, and there were 14,000 deaths due to AIDS.
In two countries in this region – the Bahamas and Haiti – more than 2% of the adult population is living with HIV. Higher prevalence rates are found only in sub-Saharan Africa, making the Caribbean the second-most affected region in the world. Half of adults living with the virus are women.
I am genuinely concerned about our health and sexual habits in the Caribbean, hence my reason for writing this post. Sex is a wonderful thing, but carelessness and having sexual intercourse with multiple (or even one) sexual partner(s) can ruin our lives. I have seen people die from AIDS, and it was not a pretty sight. I know people with herpes who have to deal with disgusting outbreaks, and who are on medication for the rest of their lives. Lades, make sure that you not only have one sexual partner, but practice safe sex as well. Don’t only rely on the pill – use condoms as well because even if you are being faithful, you don’t know if your partner is messing around. If you can’t resist the urge to sleep with every guy that you fancy, at least use protection (and carry your own condoms because guys always claim to “forget” theirs at home or in their other pair of jeans).
Guys, I know that the tone of this post was directed to the females, but you should think about this as well, as MANY of you are evn more promiscuous than the females. I will leave you guys with some reading material so that you can see this is NOT A JOKE!
Reading Material:
Caribbean HIV/AIDS Statistics
HIV and AIDS in the Caribbean
AIDS Wiki
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Sexual Health
STD Prevention
If you enjoyed this post, make sure you subscribe to my RSS feed!